Therapy for Men’s Issues
Find the Support you need to take control of your life
What’s it like to be a man in today’s world?
As a man, feelings of anxiety, depression, stress, or strain may be weighing on you but you don’t know where to turn. You want to be a better man for your family, but the pressure you feel is a lot to bear. Your career, your relationships, your responsibilities—it all adds up, and maybe the only ways you’ve learned to deal with that stress is by becoming a man you never wanted to be—lying, cheating, disengaged, overwhelmingly angry. You may feel like there are no dedicated support groups or safe spaces for you, and your nights out with friends or colleagues definitely don’t end in a heart-to-heart.
At Counseling Col:lab, our therapists specializing in men’s issues believe in empowering you with the tools and support to become a happier, healthier version of yourself. We want to create space for you to let go of the burdens weighing you down.
Are You Dealing with Relationship Issues or Conflict?
Men engage in sex and love differently than women. You are conditioned to experience relationships in a way that may not always be comfortable for you. Are you finding that, along the way, you stopped feeling secure in your relationship(s)? If conflict has arisen, counseling can help.
Whether you’re looking for an infidelity counselor, struggling with a high conflict divorce, or hoping to open up the lines of communication before it comes to that, relationship therapy specializing in men’s issues will support you.
In addition, relationship counseling can support you with:
Sexual anxiety or dysfunction
Overcoming insecurity
Emotional security and expression
Breaking through barriers of trauma
Communicating effectively
Overcoming patterns of lying and dishonesty
Healing after infidelity
The ways you experience love and support in the spaces where you feel most vulnerable have a huge impact on your mental health and resilience. Whether you’re looking for new ways to connect with a partner or trying to resolve the pain of a recent ending, relationships are a huge part of your life. Seeking support for your relationships doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Working with a therapist for men who understands what you’re going through will establish healing patterns that create healthy relationships in your life.
We also offer Couples Therapy and Couples Therapy Intensives
A private couples intensive is often the best way to transform your relationship and quickly get it back on track.
An intensive is what you need when you’re looking for depth, momentum and rapid transformation.
Does the Pressure to Perform at Work and at Home Sometimes Feel Like Too Much?
You can be a successful partner, entrepreneur, man, and friend—but these identities do not define your worth.
If you’re feeling beaten down by the pressure to provide emotionally and financially, we want to offer you a space to take off those expectations. Counseling for career success and balance can be mindful of the future you’re building and yet still be a reprieve from all the other places where you need to perform. With a therapist that specializes in men’s issues, you’ll have the freedom to just be yourself. Alongside that liberation from the pressure of the many roles you play, in therapy, new tools to help you prioritize your energy, decompress effectively, and navigate productivity while staying mentally strong are available to you.
Feeling Othered by Society?
While “middle-class white man” has become synonymous with privilege in recent years, the tension continues to mount for men of other identities. Minority men are facing tokenization and oppression in work and social spaces even as Diversity and Inclusion are touted as buzzwords by those very groups.
For men of color, LGBTQIA2+ men, and disabled men, the “system” feels far from comfortable and yet it’s your daily reality. But you do not have to bear that burden alone. Counseling Col:lab has experienced therapists who’ve shared these struggles in their own lives and are ready to help you develop a healthier relationship with them. Here, we’ve cultivated a secure space to unpack the micro and macro aggressions you experience every day while developing tools to help you stay true to yourself in an environment that isn’t always welcoming.
Do You Want to Move Forward from Past Trauma?
There is more to trauma than meets the eye. If you’ve experienced hurts that won’t heal and continue to be haunted by the pain of the past, you may be among the millions of men suffering in silence with trauma or a PTSD diagnosis.
Through in-person or online PTSD counseling, you can break free of the binds that hold you back.
Traumatic experiences are impossible to overcome on your own and you are not weak for feeling helpless against them. Receive specialized support from men who know what it means to carry pain you cannot bear while having the strength to silently keep going.
If we get stuck in the feeling of not feeling safe, then healing doesn’t come. If we don’t speak on what we’ve experienced and share it with one another, it goes deep down inside of us and gets stuck there.
But the healing process comes from us talking about it and bringing it up to the surface and starting to digest it.
It’s Time to Let Your Strengths Shine So You Can Live Your Best Life
From overcoming oppression to outlasting infidelity, men’s issues are a unique lens that deserve a specialized system of support. Masculinity is not defined by cutting yourself off from parts of yourself that matter to you. At Counseling Col:lab, we’ve taken care to cultivate space for vulnerability that will reinforce your strength.
Your brightest future is just around the corner. Unlock access to your full potential by opening yourself up to the incredible possibility that’s already within you. You can be vulnerable and virile, strong and soft, and carry the flame of compassion within you while holding on to everything that makes you feel like a man.
Find a men’s Therapist for You
As men, our life experiences and the challenges we face vary. However, finding the right male therapist can help you to feel understood, affirmed, and validated.
Tom Paderna, Ph.D.
Tom Paderna, is an experienced male therapist serving clients in person and via telehealth from Sacramento, California. His solution-focused yet calm approach can support you as you overcome pain from your past, manage stress in the present, and create a better future for yourself and your relationships with others.
For men’s issues including therapy for infidelity, compulsive lying, overwhelming anger, high conflict divorce, ptsd counseling or for the chance to work with a therapist who is a culture match as an Asian/ Pacific Islander male, reach out to Tom today and learn what it means to be a comprehensive man.
Counseling Col:lab offers holistic and innovative clinical counseling services to clients dealing with men’s issues such as going through a high conflict divorce, dealing with overwhelming feelings of anger, lying & other relationship issues that require an infidelity counselor, and PTSD counseling in and around the greater Sacramento area, including zip codes 95621, 95816, 95817, 95818, 95819, 95823, 95824, and 95837. Their diverse group of therapists offers in-person and online therapy from East Sacramento, California.