Therapy for Breakups and Divorce

Finding A Therapist to Heal and start Fresh after an ending

WHO IS THIS FOR?

This page is for everyone looking ahead with the hope that their hurt can be shaped into a vibrant future.

The end of a relationship is the beginning of a new one with yourself. Unfortunately, this concept helps no one unless you spend time moving through the process of grief that breakups leave behind. If you are trying to rebuild yourself and the shape of your life after the core of it has changed, this page is for you.

Healing from a breakup has no overnight fix —especially when your lives continue to be intertwined. If you decide that you want professional help to better process your breakup, we would be honored to support you as you find closure. We will work together to remove any guilt weighing on you as you move forward.

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Emotional Healing

Breaking up hurts.

Sometimes alongside that pain, we feel a myriad of other things. Relief, regret, frustration, betrayal and anger may tangle with the hurt in blurry abstraction that makes it hard or sit with any single feeling. Working through your feelings one at a time is key in processing them so you can find peace and acceptance beyond the ending of a relationship.

You may feel abandoned or confused about how you’re going to navigate a future that suddenly looks quite different than you imagined. The emotional toll of a breakup is heavy, but you do not have to bear it alone.

Social Healing

Maybe you shared a friend group and you’re not sure where to turn for comfort. Perhaps you’re just not feeling ready to express your grief and raw heart to those you love.

Though we all need and deserve support, receiving that in a social setting may feel painful after a breakup.

Adjusting friendships and other important relationships in your life after a breakup is difficult. Let us help you navigate rebuilding a support network that you feel comfortable with and confident participating in.

Logistical Healing

When you’re separating the threads of a life lived together, even the most mundane details can feel overwhelming and stressful. Plans and dreams you were relying on have suddenly become obsolete but the paper trail of them does not dissolve alongside the breakup. Working through the division of assets can feel like fracturing memories and splitting finances may bruise an already broken heart.

Every on-paper decision risks a paper cut in painful places, but we want to support you as you navigate these unavoidable aches. From the farewell to the final unpacked detail in your “after”, we are here to help you untangle the emotions left in the way of logistics.

It’s an end, not the end.

Breakups often feel like the world is crumbling around you. Being alone in a heart that became a home for two in can elicit a myriad of emotions and none of them are wrong.

You may revisit hard spaces, or even scary new ones, and feel as if you’re failing. You may stabilize quickly and move toward the next stage of life with little strife. There is no right way to break up but there are certainly scarier ones. This ending feels major. It is major, but it isn’t the last ending you’ll ever face.

As you move through the grief of a life you thought you understood, plans made and dreams had, a supportive therapist can guide you in re-writing the future ahead of you to keep what you love and move on from the things that don’t belong in your world any longer.

It’s your story, ending and all.

At the end of a relationship, the stark absence of someone who filled so much space in your mind and life feels jarring. You may feel an itch to reach out and the justification for this urge often comes in the name of closure.

There’s a secret we’d like to share with you.

Not because we’re your therapist (though we hope to be), but because you deserve to know that closure is not for anyone else to own. Closure is yours to seek, and yours to grant.

No matter what explanations you feel you may be lacking or the pain you may be feeling, no one deserves access to your ability to achieve acceptance of this end.Closure is a power that resides with you and can be obtained with the pieces you have already.

You have all you need to find closure without the person who hurt you. In therapy, we will work with you on answering the questions you have and addressing the emotions that linger so you can turn the page and start a new chapter instead of burning the book before you see what happens next.

Tips for breaking up

It does not matter which party initiated the end of a relationship, breakups hurt. Even when they’re for the best, or seeing the good is easy, endings are painful and we aren’t designed to handle them alone. Lean into your humanity and seek the support you deserve in navigating all the in between ache that comes before the healing.

It does not matter if you saw it coming a mile away, or were blindsided entirely: your pain is valid. We are here to walk through the storm clouds, wet grounds and your eventual vibrant skies.

Frequently asked questions

You’re going to live the life of a whole person because that’s exactly what you are. You are whole, as you, exactly as you are now. It may be painful or confusing for a while, but that’s what we are here for. Together, you will move with your therapist toward emotional clarity so you can feel and process the pain you are feeling.
Your former partner may have been a lot of things for you but you stand independently capable of moving into the next phase of life as a whole person. It will require some re-calibration, but you are more than capable of doing that as you move through a supported breakup recovery.
If you are in crisis or at risk of harming yourself, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room for immediate support.
Suicidal thoughts and ideation cannot wait for operating hours or available appointments, but as soon as you are feeling safe even amid the pain, we want to support you through rediscovering all the ways your life is worth living.
Heartbreak can be consuming and you may feel like you can’t resume the life you lived before the breakup. But no matter who you were with them, or what your life looked like together, there is so much after for you to experience.
Even when you know the decision you’re making is the right one, there will still be plenty of struggle in the dissolution of a relationship. Uncoupling can be a logistical and analytical nightmare, and that’s without touching the sentiment.
Having positive feelings or a lingering relationship with your former partner speaks highly of the respect you have for one another but it may lull you into the trap of reminiscence. Feeling sure about the end of a relationship you cherished can be unnerving on its own, and separating the pain of memories, hopes and what might have been can be a tempting thought trap. Our experts have the tools to help you untangle every thread.
The pain of breaking up can remain stagnant for a long time. Without intentional energy directed toward healing, we can stay in the vulnerable pain of endings nearly indefinitely. It’s not something we just get over, get past or that time can heal.
You need tools to make the most of the emotions that are causing you this pain, and maybe to chisel out the spaces in which you’re clinging to what once was. It can be difficult to let go and work through your emotions, but with the right therapist and your own strength, we will get you to it, through it and beyond to your own recovery.